Monday, November 16, 2009

Be grateful!

Today's blog will not be very uplifting. A friend from high school lost her life this weekend in what will be a very bittersweet situation for her family. Candace Vargo died after complications from childbirth leaving behind a beautiful little boy & her husband. I just cannot imagine. Truly.

What hits me the hardest today is the thoughts from her best friend who was more like a sister. I sobbed this morning thinking of all the situations I've been through in the last few years knowing without a doubt I would not be where I am today with my best friend by my side.

I sent her an email first thing this morning to make sure she knows how much I love her & thanked her for keeping me from a dark place when my Mom died.

I have very few close friends. I keep my distance from people. I think alot of that has to do with dealing with the death of my brother at such a young age. I've hurt people I called friends too. Mostly because I get my feelings hurt then back away. It's not fair & everyone gets hurt but it's how I react.

I don't know where I'm going with all of this other than to remind you that life is precious. Tomorrow is never a promise. God gives us each day as a gift. What would you do if you knew tomorrow wasn't coming? Each day should be lived that way. Never forget to let those around you know how much you appreciate them, pray for your friends & family daily & I even pray for those I no longer speak with. Life goes on, babies are born & lives are lost. Take advantage of the moments in your life & never take them for granted!

And while your at it....say a prayer for Candace's family & friends. They will need them!


The Kelley Family said...

Wow! I can't even imagine. It makes you really realize the things that are really important in your life. I will keep Candance and her family in my prayers. I hope you know just how much I value our friendship and I am so happy to have a friend like you in my life.

Jill R. said...

Are you located in Northwest Indiana?

Jill R. said...

I now see you are located in Valpo. I'm sorry I should have elaborated more....
My mom, husband and I run a family business and we used to have a Candace Vargo Lynne work for us. We are just trying to find out some more information. I googled her name and your blog popped up. Thank you.

Heather said...

Alicia: Thank you so so much! You are a treasured friend!!!!!

Jill: Yes, I am in Valpo & graduated from Merrillville if that helps you figure out if it was the same person or not. I unfortunately do not know Candace's married name but if I learn more I will post it here in the comments!

Jill R. said...

We did confirm this is the same Candace. We are just heartbroken over this. Candace was a wonderful person. Our thoughts and prayers are going out to her family.

SuperDots said...

SO true...

I'll say a prayer for your friend's family.

One of my doctors was murdered early Halloween's definitely taken a toll.

I'm with you, I keep a distance...but funny thing-after the doctor's death, I felt myself reaching out to close friends I miss (life's just busy sometimes!) and felt like I just needed to catch up--because I would hate to go without having done so. I think I realized I realized I was TOO distant-from those who mean the most.

Anyway, I don't really know where I'm going with this either...but yes, life is precious and we let's tell everyone we love, how much we love them!

Lady Rois said...

I too have been behind in my readings and writings... just wanted to add my thanks for sharing this and prayers & sympathies to those that are left behind to carry on.

I feel like I've been a bit alone lately in the friend arena... most of the people I'm closest to emotionally are miles away but I'm grateful every day for new relationships I'm cultivating. I may not have many close, close friends, but those I have are dear to me.